Whether you want to mix up your usual bedroom routine, mutually struggle to reach orgasm during sex, or are simply hungry for novelty in your sex life, using sex toys as a couple is a true win-win.
What makes a sex toy "good for couples"?
Realistically, any toy that works for an individual could be used by a couple - beyond mutual consent, there's no rule book! That said, some toys have features that lend themselves particularly well to partnered sex, those features being:
Non-intrusive design. For most couples, toys are there to supplement sex, not to become the only star of the show or take away from your experience with each other.
Can enhance penetrative sex, oral sex, or foreplay. This is the whole point! A sex toy that's great for couples is one that plays well with whatever else you'd already be doing during sex.
Flexible and easy to operate. The mood should, by no circumstances, be broken by a toy that's confusing to use or can't quite get in the place you want it to go. Hands free toys are ideal for penetrative sex, while you might want something that's a bit more hands-on for foreplay or oral sex.
Long charge hold. The toy should be like the Energizer Bunny, but better - we recommend rechargeable toys (vs. battery operated), so you can keep going and coming, and coming, and coming...
Easy to clean. It's best practice to clean a sex toy after every use for masturbation so the same holds true for couple use. Some couples might love a more complex toy, making all the nooks and crannies worth it but for the majority, we're going to assume you don't feel like cleaning a toy for ten minutes after having sex.
The best sex toys we recommend for couples:
We-Vibe Match - $174
Best for: simultaneous g-spot and clitoral stimulation
The Match is a couples' vibrator that can be worn during penetrative sex, delivering rumbly vibrations to the G-spot and clitoris as well as up and down the full penis shaft. Once inserted inside the woman's vagina, it stays in place during sex so you can both use your hands to explore other erogenous zones on your bodies. It's waterproof, holds 2 hours worth of charge for those extra long sessions, and has a range of different settings to explore what feels best.
Dame Eva II - $135
Best for: not being intrusive while being very effective for clitoral stimulation
The Eva II is another vibrator made specifically for couple use, with flexible wings that tuck under your labia, sitting against your clitoris while you have penetrative sex. It might take some practice to get fitted just right in the beginning but once you've found that perfect spot, it's a straight forward press-and-play. It's also waterproof, has a three speed motor, and comes with a discreet charging case.
MysteryVibe Crescendo - $150
Best for: long-distance couples, uni-sex / universal vibrations, and C-spot orgasms
The Crescendo is long and flexible, reaching much farther back than most internal vibrators - to the C-spot (or the cervix). While it's phallic shaped, it can bend in pretty much any shape you want, making it super versatile when it comes to using it during sex. Additionally, the Crescendo can be operated through the MysteryVibe app, which lets your partner set vibration patterns and intensity from their phone.
Je Joue Vibrating Cock Ring - $109
Best for: taking penetrative sex to the next level, simultaneous orgasms
Je Joue's cock ring is flexible, form fitting to the base of your partner's penis (max diameter is 2.25 inches, minimum diameter is 1.25 inches), essentially turning their entire penis into a vibrating dildo, making it easier for you both to climax at the same time. Additionally, it has a small extension that will hit your clitoris as he moves in and out, adding extra stimulation. It has 5 speeds and 7 patterns, with a range of vibrations from a purr to a deep rumble.
Dame Fin Vibrator - $85
Best for: foreplay or "from behind" positions
The Fin is the smallest couples toy out of our recommendations, fitting like a ring on your partner's fingers (fits best on both the pointer and middle fingers for the average hand). It works seamlessly for foreplay touch or during sex, especially if your partner is behind you in a doggy style position and can easily reach around for clitoral access.
Best for: anal play, long-distance relationships
The Lovense butt plug is the world's first teledildonic butt plug - meaning, the vibrations can be remotely controlled by a partner whether they are inches or miles away. It's waterproof and can be used continuously for 1.5-2 hours after one full charge, offering up a full range of vibration intensity. Using a butt plug might be new territory for some heterosexual couples so the benefit may be less clear, especially for women - since the rectum and the vagina have shared nerves, it's absolutely possible to have either an anal orgasm or an enhanced vaginal orgasm by using an anal toy. For men, there's the more obvious reward of prostate stimulation.
Minna Limon - $99
Best for: hands-on play with partner, easy control, first time users
This one's ours! We made the Limon with couples in mind - it's small enough to fit comfortably in the palm of your partner's hand and is controlled via squeezes. Especially if this is your first foray into using a sex toy during sex, the Limon makes it foolproof and high-reward. As you squeeze harder, the vibrations intensify, so you can have some power play, pattern, or edging fun as a couple. The Limon's great to use during foreplay, but can also be seamlessly added into the mix for penetrative or oral sex. The vibrations are rumbly and deep, giving more full-body orgasms, and it's fully waterproof so you can use it while you get frisky in the shower.