Ethical Visual & Audio Porn for Women: Where to Find It
There's no shortage of porn on the Internet, but as many of us probably found out the hard way, the bulk of it leaves you feeling grimy and graced with a new computer virus. Not to mention the ever-present images of women being demeaned, humiliated, or even physically harmed flashing in front of your eyes.
Porn doesn't have to be this way and fortunately, there's been a boom in creators over the past decade who recognized the dire need for ethical, women-friendly porn.
What does it mean for porn to be "ethical"?
Ethical porn is produced in a non-hostile, professional work environment that values the talent on set, putting their welfare and personal boundaries first, in addition to offering various necessities like meals on set and reimbursement for affiliated personal costs.
It's harder to come by free ethical porn, but you're exchanging for a higher quality of the final product - plus, you can enjoy without guilt or concern about the welfare of the performers.
There is ample homemade porn that is free (and ethical) because it's made by everyday people who record and post themselves for the fun of it.
What do you mean by porn "for women"?
Mainstream heterosexual porn is notoriously degrading towards women. Studies have found that nearly 90% of the best selling porn depicts physical aggression, with nearly 50% including verbal aggression like name-calling. The victims are overwhelmingly women who suffer for the sake of their male counterpart's pleasure.
Porn made with women viewers in mind tend to distribute focus on who gives and receives pleasure more evenly. They're more likely to depict scenarios with obvious moments of consent, and they're filmed through the female gaze, showing women as they are, instead of as hairless Barbie-doll-sex-objects. Think: less "porn", more "sex being filmed".
It's worth mentioning that women-friendly porn is widely loved by men, who may even prefer it because it depicts something more realistic and feels less morally questionable.
Porn that's ethical and women-friendly can still push boundaries. Porn is to create a fantasy for and stimulate the viewer. If getting tied up, having rough sex, or being degraded (with permission) gets you going, you'll be able to find porn that reflects that while featuring fully consensual and well-compensated performers.
Videos
Make Love Not Porn [note: link is SFW - no nudity]
"Pro-sex, pro-porn, pro-knowing the difference".
Couples can submit videos of themselves having sex, which you can rent for $5 - half of the money goes directly to the couple themselves.
Xconfessions [note: link is NSFW - nudity]
Filmmaker Erika Lust created Xconfessions in response to viewers sending in their sex "confessions", which she then turned into well-produced short films. If you have a specific, perhaps niche fantasy, this is the place you're most likely to find it.
$35 / monthly or $12 / mo with a year membership.
Erotic Films [note: link is mostly NSFW - open with caution]
Another Erika Lust project, but it's focused on softcore cinema-style content that's more about exploring the sensuality and seduction of sex.
The videos are beautifully shot, with well-thought-out storylines, so if you want something with a bit more plot and build-up, E.F is for you.
$12 / monthly or $9 / mo from year membership.
Bellesa [note: link is NSFW - nudity]
Bellesa is a hub for all things female sexuality, offering both professionally shot porn as well as homemade videos. Most of their videos follow a similar film format to mainstream porn, but with the female gaze.
They also offer cams, erotic stories, and other various resources for all your browsing needs.
Their main content is all free.
Ok, so you're not going to have much luck finding true hardcore porn on Netflix but there's a pretty hefty selection of films that somehow made the cut, falling through the cracks of their porn censors.
The Daily Dot has put together an up-to-date list of the platform's steamiest offerings, along with tips for finding more hidden gems.
Netflix starts at $8.99/month.
Audio
Quinn [note: link mostly SFW, some suggestive words, no images]
Quinn is a relatively new site for audio erotica, allowing you to shut your eyes, sit back, and imagine visuals and sensations to go along with steamy voices and sounds. It includes everything from guided masturbation, narrated scenes, dirty talk, or the sound of people having sex.
All of the content on Quinn is free.
Dipsea [note: link is SFW]
Dipsea is a female-founded startup that focuses on well-written and produced erotic audio stories, featuring skilled voice actors. You can easily navigate to stories suited to your wants and needs at the moment, allowing for a much more personalized experience.
They have a 1 week free trial for those who get an annual plan for $50/year or it's $9/month.
Sounds of Pleasure [Note: link is SFW]
SoP is an erotic audio blog on Tumblr. The content is mostly made up of recordings submitted by listeners and it has a collection of over 1,200 recordings to be discovered.
All content is free.
Didn't find what you're looking for?
Reddit has an ongoing thread for women to confer about porn/erotica and share what they're enjoying.
