Using a Vibrator on a Man's Body: Why, How, Where?

For the majority of straight men, their exposure to a vibrator is probably through being aware of the one their partner uses to masturbate or potentially using it as a tool on their partner during sex. 

While vibrators generally have a more powerful effect on women's bodies and also play an important role in closing the orgasm gap, men have a ton of untapped vibrator-induced pleasure that they've been missing out on.  

Why not try turning the vibrational attention on him next time you're getting busy together? Especially if you've already used a couple's vibrator during sex, it's just a matter of switching up who is in charge of the controls and who is receiving the pleasure (power play, anyone??). 

As always: make sure it's consensual. 

You can keep the flow of foreplay and sex alive while still checking in to be sure your partner is enjoying what's happening. Vibrations aren't something a lot of men are used to having on their own bodies so it's normal that they could be a little sensitive or taken aback at first.

Talk with each other in a way that has dual purpose: "does it feel good?" "right here?" and "harder?" are all sexy to hear but are also ways of asking for a permissive "yes" or "no" without getting too serious. 

The general rule of thumb: Go low, slow, and around. 

If you remember your first time using a vibrator, you probably felt super sensitive to a point of discomfort, especially if you started out on full blast with the toy directly on your clitoris. 

Go in more with a goal of increasing pleasure than trying to get him off. 

Aim for gentle vibrations (low setting) on a broader surface area, instead of placed directly on a body part, like the head of their penis or nipples. Hold the vibrator at an angle where the rumbles are dispersed - if you're using a toy like the Limon, tilt the vibrator on it's side and squeeze for a nice even sensation. 

Explore his body, slowly and sensually. 

Use erogenous zones as a guide of touch points.

Create imaginary lines in between these zones with the vibrator, dragging it along slowly after concentrating on one area for bit to build anticipation and watch for visual and verbal cues. 

• Penis head and shaft: focusing mostly around the base of the head (versus directly on top) and up and down the shaft. 
• Around the scrotum / balls. This would be the cherry on top of oral sex but also feels awesome on its own. 
• Perineum: where you end up if you go back just a little bit further from the balls to the small area of skin. It's super sensitive, so massage gently. 
• Around the nipples, in slow circles.

Be wary of anal play, especially if you two haven't explored that part of his body before. Depending on the toy, it could also - in a worst case scenario - get stuck and make for an embarrassing ER trip. 

However, the lower back, butt cheeks, and perineum are all nearby and can produce safer, indirect pleasure on that part of his body.  

The usual rules of vibrator use apply. 

STIs can be transmitted via vibrator so if you're using it back and forth with each other when you'd usually be wearing condoms during sex, you should be cleaning it in between each person's use or putting a condom over the top of the vibrator. 

As always, communicate and watch for reactions. Take the expertise you've gained about using a vibrator on yourself to give it back to him (and maybe turn it down a notch to go easy on the guy, at least at first). 

Don't blame us if you find him stealing your vibrator to use on his own time. He can go buy his own.