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Our 9 Tips for Using a Vibrator with Your Wife or Girlfriend (if you're a straight dude)

Our 9 Tips for Using a Vibrator with Your Wife or Girlfriend (if you're a straight dude)

Our 9 Tips for Using a Vibrator with Your Wife or Girlfriend (if you're a straight dude)

Whether it's your wife, girlfriend, or someone you swiped right on yesterday, using a vibrator will increase enjoyment for both of you and bring in a new, exciting element to your sex life. When it comes to selecting that perfect toy, we have some guidelines we like to recommend.

Whether it's your first time or your millionth time buying a sex toy (and if so, can we see your collection?), here are some basic parameters if you're trying to spice up your hetero sex life.

 

1. Start with a conversation

Whether it's our recommended 36 questions for deeper sexual intimacy or just a casual, 'wanna try a vibrator?' Great sex starts with great communication.

2. Choose a sex toy that's easy to use at the moment

Studies show that couples switch sex positions typically at least twice–if you plan to use this vibrator or toy during sex, you need something that without complicated settings or hard plastic. Soft silicone is an excellent choice for versatility. Limon (you know we had to drop it) is easily squeezable to adjust intensity.

3. Get a rechargeable toy, and remember to charge it weekly (or more!)

Nothing ruins the moment more than a battery suddenly dying out on a toy.

4. If it's your first time, focus on clitoral stimulation

If you start your sex toy journey with a butt plug, we're impressed. But we think it's better to be a little prudent and start at first base, making sure she has an intense orgasm with a fantastic clitoral vibrator.

G-spot vibrators are great, but if you plan to be having sex while using the vibrator, probably best if your cock is doing the g-spot stimulation. Unsure of where to find the g-spot? Read our article here.

5. We know how tempting it might be, but if you're adding vibrators to the mix for the first time, avoid cock rings (for now) 

Vibrating cock rings are great, but they can be clumsy (and miss the spot). They sit at the base of the penis, and the idea is that the cock ring will be able to hit her clitoris as you're having sex. This doesn't always work so well, as people (and penises and vaginas) come in oh so many unique shapes and sizes.

6. If you're in trouble, rely on a man's best friend: doggy style

If you're fumbling with your new toy, doggy style is usually a decent position that'll give enough space and balance to trying out the vibrator on her clitoris.

7. Go easy

There are some incredibly powerful vibrators out there (hello, Hitachi Magic Wand?). But if this is the first time using a vibrator for both of you, it's maybe not the best to bring a jackhammer into the bedroom. Intimidation is not a great path to better orgasms. We've compiled a list of great vibrators with dozens of options for you.

8. Know how you're going to use your new toy

Read our guides on why you should use a vibrator with your partner and bringing a vibrator into a relationship.

9. Above all else: Start slow.

When introducing a vibrator to your sex life for the first time, start slow and naturally. You can even start by having her show you how she would use the vibrator on herself. You can also use the vibrator on her while she gives you a handjob and let things build from there. 

 

That's all. Congratulations on the better sex life and here's to better orgasms/